Someone recently asked me what “메간” means. It’s not really a secret or anything. This is my name spelled out in hangul, which is the name of the Korean alphabet. As some of you may know, my boyfriend is Korean and have been together for nearly 6 years now. I honestly can’t imagine life without him. I still come home excited to see him everyday.
When we first started dating, I didn’t know anything about the Korean culture or language, so it has been a learning experience for sure. I have studied Korean on my own, taken a year of Korean at college, and am pretty much just used to hearing the language spoken around me, so much so that I can understand most of what’s being said in a conversation. It’s funny, though, I’ve never been to Korea. We met here! He was in my sister’s program at college and I met him when I was still in high school. I’ve since graduated college, he has gotten 2 degrees and is working on a third. Time really flies.
I have learned quite a lot about my boyfriend’s culture and language since that first date nearly 6 years ago. In turn, I’d say that he has gotten a little more Americanized and his English has improved drastically 😉 These are just the result of living with one another for so long and spending every day with one another.
When I think about how we started as a couple, I realize that I fell in love with the person. The fact that he is not an American citizen never even crosses my mind. He often says that he can’t believe I don’t speak Korean. There have been times when he has spoken Korean to me without thinking 😉
When people look at us on the street, peek at us when we eat at a restaurant, or stare at us through a car window, I’m actually shocked by the ignorance. We don’t see any differences in one another, so why should anyone else? I’d like to think they are just looking at us because we are so darn cute 😉
Being in an international relationship is NOT at all easy and has been difficult. We have had to understand one another’s humor, which lead to a lot of misunderstandings in the beginning, but we understand each other now. We do have language difficulties at times and sometimes we can’t explain things exactly like we want to. I have basically given up on pop culture references because he rarely knows what I’m talking about 😉 We’ve had to deal with acceptance issues from both of our families. The worst is probably the times of separation, when he has to go back to Korea to visit his family. It’s not easy being separated by 6,000 miles. There’s always the thought that something will happen to his visa and he won’t be able to come back or stay. Like I said, it’s not easy!
We have been through so much together and started out with so little. We now have a beautiful little home, both have good jobs, and we still have each other. It’s been a fun ride thus far 🙂
These are just a few random thoughts I had today. Thanks for reading!
PS You can thank Chester for that scratch on my bf’s arm 😉