Just Take A Breath, It Will Be Ok

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Sleepy Chester 🙂

I am a strategic planner and have been that way for quite some time.  If ever I have plans to go anywhere, I think about it nonstop and how I’m going to implement it.  For instance, if I have to be anywhere at a certain time, I stress about getting there until that time.  I am probably no fun to be around if I’m running at all late.  My anxiety turns me into another, much more irritable person.

Anyway, last night we had these plans to see a university production of Chicago. Our friend was playing Amos and he had sent us invitations via email. I guess I didn’t read them close enough because it was a preview show, meaning that seating went on a first come first serve basis.

The musical started at 7:30 and K had a class until 6:45. He rushed home and picked me up and then we left immediately. We got there around 10 after 7 and the line to get in was already winding around the foyer.  I should’ve known that it would’ve been packed, but alas I am naive in this way.

I told myself the entire day that it was something we were doing at our leisure and that we didn’t have to rush or even worry about getting there.  Even though we should’ve probably been concerned about getting a seat, my thought process stopped me from being worried.  I’m glad I didn’t think about it. Otherwise I would have stressed about going to the musical all day.

I feel bad for our friend. I’m sure he was looking forward to having us in the audience, but we tried our best and couldn’t do anything about it.

K and I came home, ate dinner and watched a movie.  It turned out to be a lovely evening anyway 🙂

Thanks for reading.
megan

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32 thoughts on “Just Take A Breath, It Will Be Ok

  1. I can relate. I have to schedule any appointments for morning (late morning) so that I don’t stress all day. Instead, I can get it over with. I obsess over my little calendar and I also know what you mean about planning extensively for everything. I even write lists of every thing I need to do and give myself a time allotment. I am trying not to do this anymore though. I am so glad your evening turned out nice anyway 😉

  2. It turned out to be a lovely evening anyway
    So no matter how messed up it gets, even with out any planning you can have a lovely evening.Try remember that next time.you want to plan, enjoy the time given.
    Keep smiling, be strong, enjoy

  3. Hum. I am not much prone to stress, in particular not for an outing. I’m late? It’s full? So be it, won’t kill me. I’ll have another opportunity. But sometimes…

    This summer, a good friend invited me to her son baptism. I am not a religious person and I normally don’t mind these events, more often than anything turning down any invitation. My friend isn’t religious any more, like many others she did that for the family. She sure knew what I thought of that. But when she invited me, I knew she really wanted to have me around, so I exceptionally accepted.

    The church where the event was held wasn’t very far, so I planned my trip as to arrive about 15 minutes in advance. I was unaware though that the road leading there was closed that day, and all traffic was detoured into smaller streets. I arrived there about 20 minutes late, and couldn’t find a parking spot. I ended up returning home (through a different road, of course). I felt bad, not for missing the event as is, but because I thought my friend really wanted to have me around.

    A few days later, when I saw her, she said she saw me driving in front of the church. The event was delayed, so I wasn’t late after all, but she could understand there was a lack of parking spaces around, some of her family members have had to park a long walking distance away. I was really sorry but she didn’t mind as much as I did. She’s unlikely to have more babies, so there won’t be other opportunities.

    1. I have actually had something like this happen to me. I was really embarrassed when I found out that they had seen me sneak in and sneak off again because there was no room! It was a wedding actually haha! Oh well, I’m sure she knows that you made the attempt and that shows that you care in itself 🙂

  4. I’m sorry you missed your friends show but it was nice reading that you had a lovely evening 🙂

    Thank you for following my blog and Facebook, I really appreciate it 🙂

  5. I hate it when things don’t go exactly as planned! Which happens quite a lot because I make plans about even very small tasks, so I guess that means more than enough opportunities for something to mess up the plan – which is probably why I always have alternatives in mind, but it can be quite tiring to make so many plans for possible scenarios! Anyway, what I’m getting at is that I’m glad you were able to enjoy the evening anyway and didn’t let the involuntary change of plans distress you too much. Anyway, your feeling guilty wouldn’t help your friend, either, and in this case it’s obvious that you really tried, it’s not just an excuse.

  6. I’m a bit of a stressor when it comes to being late. I don’t like that about me and I should just be more prepared and early to compensate for that. But I like to think it means you care a lot. Otherwise, why would we get ourselves upset about things? 🙂
    Better for wellbeing to stress less though eh!

    1. I hate being late too, so I definitely understand you there. I couldn’t agree more. To me, being late and it not bothering you shows that you don’t respect the other person’s time.

  7. Oh my gosh I am totally with you on the strategic planning but especially on the pre-anything anxiety, particularly relating to being on time.
    I do get better as I get older though and have had partners that just don’t think like i do and thankfully having them to take up some of the worry permanently eased mine.

    1. Yay! I’m not the only one. Just thinking about being late sends me into panic mode. My bf is just as bad about it as I am. He hates being late too, so we’re usually on time 😀

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