Here’s a picture of my latest creation, a flower pot pattern courtesy of lionbrand.com. Honestly, it’s not my favorite, but oh well. You can’t win them all.
I was reading an article today and something popped into mind. This is one of my biggest pet peeves, by the way. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been asked “So, when will you two tie the knot?” or maybe, “Have you set a date yet?” or my personal favorite, “Where’s the ring?” I have literally been asked all of these things and more by many people. I know no one is trying to make me feel bad and are genuinely curious. Actually, I don’t always know that. Some of them may be trying to make me feel bad. It usually follows when someone asks how long we’ve been together (for the record is 6 years going on 7).
In my opinion, relationships shouldn’t concern anyone except those in them. I don’t think it’s anyone’s business other than my own and K’s if or when we will get married. It’s almost as bad as asking a married couple, “when will you have kids?” It’s insensitive and there may be things that you don’t know that is hindering the couple from marrying or having kids.
I just want to set the record straight, for myself at least. It is not yet possible for us to get married. I’m not sure how long it will be or if we ever really decide to go through with it. There are many complications that are preventing us from taking that step. First being that we are an international couple and deciding on getting a green card or becoming a citizen (to either’s country) is always on our minds. K’s family is not supportive of our relationship and I know how difficult that is on him and me. We just don’t want to deal with that amount of stress right now in our lives. I’d rather just not deal with the fighting for now.
Another big one is finances. Marriage ain’t cheap! Holy cow, everything is so expensive for weddings. We’re just not in a place right now that we can financially afford it. Not to mention, we’ll probably have to have two weddings, one in the US and one in Korea. That I’m not really looking forward to.
It’s not like we haven’t thought about it. We’ve thought about it A LOT and have decided that we’re not in the right place or time to get married. One day, maybe. We’ll see 😀
Huh, thanks for letting me get that out there!