Going Through Her Things

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Here are some nature shots of my latest project, Umbreon.  For those of you who don’t know, it’s a Pokemon 🙂   I used to love Pokemon when I was little.  My brother and I had three of the early versions and we would hook up our Gameboys with a cord and fight each other’s Pokemon. I collected Pokemon cards not because I knew how to play, but because I thought they were cute and pretty.  Umbreon was my favorite Pokemon, so I made it possibly because of nostalgia, but I think it turned out ok.

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This weekend, my mom, sister, cousins, and I did the difficult task of going through my grandmother’s things and taking the things that we wanted or could use.  My grandpa certainly didn’t want to keep all of it and had no emotional attachment to most of it either.  She loved collecting things.  I have never seen so much makeup, jewelry, handbags, clothes, and shoes before in my life.  Everything she owned was beautiful and of good quality.  I always admired her for her choice in things and always thought she had the nicest stuff.

Probably the thing I’ll cherish most and that is my favorite thing of her’s is this small, Swarovski cat pendant: DSC_0168

It’s precious and cute, yet very nice and of good quality at the same time. It reminds me of her because she liked nice things and had a fondness for cat figurines, many of which I inherited and are now at my home. I’ll have to take a picture of them all when I get settled in my new apartment next month. They are packed away safely for now.

It was difficult going through her things and strange at the same time.  Although it has to be done when someone passes away, it still feels like an invasion of privacy.  I felt terrible going through her things and just taking the lovely belongings she had collected over the years.  It was heartbreaking to me, but I knew she would appreciate her family having her things rather than a stranger.

I still can’t believe she’s gone.  She was always such a strong woman with a funny, yet sweet personality.

Some of the things I took home with me have her scent and I hope that doesn’t fade anytime soon because she had such a lovely smell.  I miss her so much.

That’s all for now.  Thanks for reading.

Megan

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43 thoughts on “Going Through Her Things

  1. Know what you mean. It is horrible going through a loved ones things but you will be glad you took some treasures as they remind you of the loved one. My mother’s scarves that I took, still smell of her perfume. You’ll get through this and no one can take away the memories of your Grandma locked inside your heart.

  2. Hello Meghan I love yyou Umbreon stuffie! He is so bright & colorful & you are very talented. Please accept my sympathy on the passing of your Grandmother…..when my Nanna passed away in 1995 I thought I would just explode with grief….she had raised me for the first 10 yrs of my Life so we had a deep bond. I too had to go thru her things & that was no easy task!
    I love the crystal kitty pendant you chose…it is beautiful…
    Thank you for stopping by The Purrfect Pad tonite.
    Stop by anytime!!
    Sincerely, Sherri-Ellen & Nylablue too

    1. Thank you so much 🙂 It was fun to make!
      I really appreciate you sharing the story of your grandmother. I know how much it hurts to lose a grandmother. They are special people that’s for sure. Thanks for your kind words.

      1. You are very welcome Megan. I was raised by my Nanna & Zaida from birth til I was 10 years old so my nanna was both grandmother & Mother to me. She was an amazing woman who taught me all about unconditional love & being a good person & an honorable woman. She lives on in my heart always..
        Thank YOU for sharing about your Grandmother.
        Sincerely, Sherri-Ellen

  3. oh megan, i remember going through one of my grandma’s things with the cousins. i had always wanted a small little bottle she used to refill with nivea cream. the smell never gets lost on me. she used it from when i was a baby, and i had told her i wanted it even after i was married. about 11 years ago i found out it had softened it’s last perfectly manicured hands with soft see-through pink nail polish on them. i was so sad. all her figurines she had labeled with her grandkids and great-grandkids names on them years before. she began sending them to us for our christmas and birthday gifts… even with the clear glue she used on most of the ones that had been repaired. i laughed at her… but it was still endearing. hold on to your memories. they will get sweeter day-by-day.
    lovingly,
    d

    1. that’s a sweet thing to remember your grandmother goodbye and sometimes the simplest things can be the most meaningful. I’m glad you have the memories of her to keep you comfort. Thanks for sharing your lovely story and for your very kind words. It’s much appreciated.

  4. Grand parents were always grand around me. now I r 1.. I try and reflect what I remember.. Turning 60.. can u hear that rolling your tongue and between your teeth..(mine r store bought.. too much meth..it’s great .. I can smile again and hopefully though i’ll live long enuff to give a guided tour of what drugs can do.. I just got to hug them.. but me really my arms go right thru em keep your memories close to your heart. they give me a sense of history and those great care packages fudge and ribbon candy .

  5. I love that Pokemon amigurumi! I wish I could crochet that but I only know one stitch. I’ve tried teaching myself, but I have a very short attention span :$ I loved Pokemon too. I think my favorite was Charmander. My sister loved Jigglypuff a lot. I used to make Pokemon sounds for the kids I babysat, lol. I have a low voice so I could never do a realistic Pikachu.

    Sorry about your grandma 😦 But I think she would by happy to pass down her collection to someone that loves it as much as her 🙂

    1. thank you! It’s so fun to make amigurumi and I encourage you to keep working on it. I never thought I’d be able to do it either, but here I am and I’m loving it. There are so many adorable patterns out there that I’m hoping to try. The good thing about Amigurumi is that it’s almost totally made with single crochet 🙂
      Thanks for your kind words about my grandmother. I really appreciate it. hope you’re doing well girl.

  6. I used to like pokemon when I was in elementary, but I’m older than you so umbreon wasn’t a pokemon yet. There were only the original 150 plus Mew. I played the card game and collected tons of cards. I remember a trick you could do to duplicate a pokemon. You’d hook up gameboys and “trade” a pokemon then right when you gave them a pokemon before you’d get yours in return you’d pull out the cord. I did that to give people Mew’s.

    1. I loved Pokemon, not everyone did, but some. I remember Mew quite well haha! I had the VHS of Pokemon 2000, my favorite movie for quite some time. My brother and I always hooked up our gameboys, but I never knew that trick.

  7. The scarves I put back for you have her smell and it’s very comforting. Years ago I read about a man who lost his wife and always kept her fluffy housecoat hanging in his room. One day his daughter came over to clean his house and do his laundry, well she washed the robe. The man sobbed uncontrollably after he discovered that the robe with the last remaining scent of her perfume had been washed. I never really understood just how much that must have affected him until now. Rest assured I was very much aware of this when I started organizing moms things and made doubly sure dad was fine with anything I did.
    Losing your mother is horrible and it is one of the biggest heartbreaks of a persons life. I want you to know that when my time here is over, I’m sorry for breaking your heart but always know that I lived my life in a way that all you kids knew how much you were loved and I knew you loved me….because in the end memories and feelings of love are ALL that really matter.
    Love you.

    1. It is a heartbreaking experience and I will be heartbroken when you’re gone momma, but you’ve taught me a lot and I’ll have that knowledge with me the rest of my life. No one lives forever and it’s a reality we all have to face and I’m not afraid of dying. If two of the best women in my life endured it, then certainly I can too.

  8. I think he came out pretty well there dear lady. (yes watched it to) ha ha gosh I am getting old seriously.

    It is terrible to miss somebody, and though it may felt wrong to go through her stuff. it is through those little items she lives on. Each of the precious things have a memory stuck to it.

    Like for me a crochet cat on top of a candy pot. ANd i always needed to ask the cat if I was allowed a piece of candy.
    JUst smiling. Be strong and keep smiling Megan

    1. thank you so much dear. It is very difficult to go through their things and it does feel wrong and like an invasion of privacy. I hated doing it, but was so glad to be there for my momma. That is a precious story about the crochet cat and the candy pot 🙂 Very cute. I’m glad you have that memory to stay with you.

    1. thank you dear. It’s getting easier and I have my sister and mom to confide in, so that helps a lot. Yes, we are moving! To a nicer place on the opposite side of town, not a huge move, but a necessary one.

      1. It’s good to have family that you’re close to.

        Congrats! I know you’ve wanted to find something new for quite some time. Moving is always stressful, but in the end, you’ll be happier for it. 🙂

  9. That is an awesome Umbreon! Did you make the pattern yourself? I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother. It’s always hard when we lose someone close to us. Cherish the memories you have with her, and she’ll live on in your heart. I always love looking at the mementos that make me think of those special people that have since passed.

    1. Thank you so much! No, I didn’t make the pattern, but I got it from ravelry.com . I need to edit that post with the link for the pattern. Thanks for reminding me and thanks for the lovely, comforting works about my grandmother. I appreciate it.

  10. That’s beautiful. I’m glad that you have something of hers that smells like her. The ‘granny smell’ was my favorite scent as a child, right next to my mom’s scent. Thank you for sharing a little bit of her with us.

    I also loved Pokemon when it came out; still have all my old cards and my nephews are always asking me to play it with them even if the rules have altered slightly from what I remember. (Only because there are more Pokemon powers than there were in the first few generations of cards.)

    1. I looked for my cards a few years ago, but to no avail. I think mom got rid of them, darn it. haha.
      Thank you for your kind, comforting words. It means a lot to me right now.

  11. Going through a loved one’s belongings is a difficult thing to do, Megan, and well done for getting through it. Take comfort from the fact that she would be happy that you have some of her things now as reminders of her. When my mother died six years ago we had to do the same thing and it was very upsetting, but now I love catching sight of one of her small ornaments on my shelf or using a pretty tea towel that was hers.

    You are right about things that smell of your grandmother too. Last Christmas a friend who didn’t even know my mother gave me a gift of a small bottle of perfume and it turned out to be the same fragrance my mother used to wear. I am getting such pleasure out of wearing it after all this time and it reminds me of her daily.

    By the way, your crochet work is lovely and so is your cat!

    1. It is so difficult, but necessary I suppose. I’m just glad I have my mom and sister to talk things through with. It’s necessary to have that support system. Thank you for sharing about your mother. I know how difficult that must’ve been for you and I certainly feel your pain.

      Thank you for appreciating my crochet! 🙂 It’s my latest and greatest hobby 🙂 and yes, Chester is quite lovely, although demanding 🙂

  12. Oh my goodness-that Pokemon is adorable! Especially in the tree, lol! I’m so glad you have these things of your grandma’s. And even some of the scent that brings her so close to you. I would love to be loved and remembered like that. 💛

    1. hahaha, I found that most ppl take pics of their amigurumi outside in nature, so that’s what I did 🙂 i think it’s pretty funny too. Thank you for the kind words about my grandma. It really means a lot to me 🙂

  13. Megan,
    Thanks so much for letting us hear and see some of what you’re experiencing as you go through your Grandma’s things. She would be so happy to know that you care, and that you don’t want to forget her. The cat connection with her is fabulous. What a gift!
    Elouise

  14. Megan, I did not have the honor of knowing your grandmother, but I am certain like most grandparents she would be happy that you inherited some of her precious belongings.

    I am certain you will treasure these items. Also ceratin she would be very happy you have them and might pass them along to future generations, if you someday have children.

    You are lucky. Please do not feel as though you should have not gone through these sentimental keepsakes.

    My Father has OCD. After, my mom passed away what few things we were allowed to share, I have such few of those items left. My father, perhaps due to grief or OCD almost immediately throw out or donated most of her belongings. It was his way to grieve, by “cleaning” . Many of those items, I may have wanted and he never even askef. What he thought was junk was junk. He never asked us kids.

    Im so sorry for your loss. Grandparents are wonderful treasures. Mine have long passed but i have very fond memories.Im sure you have good memories yourself. Hold on to those for they are timeless.

    1. I appreciate your reply to this post so very much. It was beautiful and yes, it was an honor to know her and an honor to share her memory. Hearing about your mother’s passing broke my heart. I’m very sorry for your loss. I know losing a grandparent is so very difficult, but I can imagine it’s a different hurt when you lose a parent. The most important thing is not the “things” left behind for us to keep, but the memories of the love and life shared.

      1. Yes, the memories you will treasure the rest of your life. To be honest, I have lost many trinkets of loved ones that have passed on. But the memories and precious moments will always be there. I lost two grandparents in early childhood-then two grandparents in my early twenties. It was opposite like first my Dad’s father passed when I was only 6, then my Mom’s mother passed when I was 8. But both my mom’s father and my Dad’s mother lived until I was older.My Dad’s mom was 94 when she passed in 2003.It was a deep loss but I knew it was her time to go.There is sorrow yet there is underlying joy that she was a part of my life for so long. I imagine you feel something similar perhaps?

      2. I do feel that way. I was so thankful to have my grandmothers in my life for as long as I did. It is always heartbreaking to hear someone say that they never knew their grandparents because in my opinion, grandparents are some of the most special people in our lives. I got to know them both when I was an adult, so I doubt my memories of them will ever fade.

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