Quarter Life Crisis?

Today I turned 25. I came to work to find that my lovely coworkers gave me cupcakes.  Birthdays have never bothered me before, but this one is rough for some reason. I realize that in just five years I’ll be 30 and in 15 years, I’ll be 40. Makes me feel sick to my stomach.  I’m freaking out.

Yes, I know, some of you will say, “25 is so young!” That may be technically true, but I honestly feel like high school was like a year ago, but in reality it was 7 years ago. I graduated college already 3 years ago, holy crap. Where the heck is my life going?!

It’s amazing how an age can be so psychologically terrifying. If I live to be 100, I am already 1/4 of the way finished with my life. I’m not scared to die, not really, but I’m scared to get old and not recognize my face in the mirror anymore.

Today, I will eat at least one of those cupcakes, if not two and just not give a crap.

Megan

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108 thoughts on “Quarter Life Crisis?

  1. I am 30 in 4 months and it doesn’t bother me in the slightest…25 however? I felt like it was the end of the world! I felt like I should have been much further along, I compared myself to everyone else and what they’d achieved at the same point in their life…

    Don’t worry, from 25, life gets pretty amazing! xx

  2. Don’t get ahead of yourself. Thinking ahead to 15 years is too overwhelming, just think what you were like 15 years ago – you were 10 and that was a completely different life stage.
    I had a quarter life WHOA moment too, but you know what? None of those fears materialized.
    It’s really sweet of your coworkers gave you cupcakes – yes go ahead and enjoy a few of them!

  3. Don’t worry about the facade crumbling, dear quarter-lifer. There’s technology for that. Worry, if anything, that you only care about what you look like, and not what you have to offer the world. That is a true crisis.

  4. I felt the same way at 25. Thirty wasn’t as bad as I expected, and 40 wasn’t more than a blip on the radar. I actually still feel like I’m in my twenties, just with 20 years of hindsight. I hope the same will be true for you!

    Have a wonderful birthday! While you’re at it, have a cupcake for me. 😄

  5. Happy Birthday and let it be known, the best years of your life are ahead of you, not behind you! Enjoy!

  6. I went through a quarter life crisis when I turned 25 – complete with all the points you made. It’s the first time I really thought about my own mortality, the fact that my time here is limited, and what do I want to do with it? Come to think about it, that’s around the time my depression started getting really bad. I think I’ve worked through most of it, but there are still some kinks to work out.

    One thing that helps me is hearing Fox’s parents talk about when they were our age, how they got where to they are, and most importantly new directions they want to take their lives. It gives me the message that there’s still time. I can pursue what I want now and change courses later, etc. I’m not locked in to anything.

    I hope this helps make the quarter-life crisis a bit easier to deal with. It seems a lot of people are going through them. Perhaps it’s a normal and necessary part of transitioning from young to full adulthood?

  7. I started to have these moments of gripping fear at 30. Thirty is the age that I always equated with being an actual adult. Twenties still felt young and full of possibilities, but 30 always seemed like the age where it’s expected that a person mellow out and get serious about whatever it is they plan to do for the rest of their life. I also knew that because I’m overweight, I could have just as many/few years ahead as I now have behind me (and as we all know, the months fly by much faster when there are bills and deadlines). The fear hits like waking up from a dream where you’re falling. “I’m going to die. It’s going to happen, definitely for sure, whether I’m ready or not.” I can’t put it off like I have every other uncomfortable thing in life. The panic subsides as I realize that EVERYONE does. It is scary, as you say, to face the possibility of not recognizing your face in the mirror. My grandmother had dementia. She died because the doctors thought it would be to difficult for her to recover from a leg amputation, since every day would be the first time she saw it. Ugh, I don’t mean to feed your crisis D: Just know that these are thoughts that you will naturally have now, and as much as time moves forward for everyone, everyone has these moments. Even the people who have followed a straight path to their life goals will stop at some point and wonder what else they might have done. You’re in good company. Happy Birthday! Now enjoy those beautiful cupcakes!

    1. I’m glad to know I’m not alone in this. I think everyone must go through this at some point in life and it’s actually quite normal. Thanks for sharing a bit about yourself and thanks for the birthday wishes!

  8. Happy birthday Megan!!! I know what you mean I’m going to be 23 this year and it kind of freaks me out to think how fast my life seems to be going. N is going to be 27 this year he’s freaking out more than me! I hope you enjoy your day and your cakes they look amazing!! xx

  9. Oh dear Megan, you sound like my daughter–who will be27. She worries already about getting old. I only chuckle because I remember those feelings. Now I wish I would have blocked out the worry–old age will come, and believe it or not there are some pretty awesome things that come with that–like no one looks twice if you’re not perfect and you get discounts on all kinds of crap 😀 Happy Birthday sweetheart. You’re a beauty inside and out!! ❤

  10. I actually remember 25 for that specific reason. To me, 25 was non-collegiate, non-coed, quite adulty. I liked it fine, but I remember feeling it was a big change from 24.
    I hope you’ll enjoy 25 — it was one of my favorite years. And happy birthday! 🙂

  11. Happy birthday. Life goes fast. That’s why we need to grab it with both hands, it’s a slippery little critter and before you we know it, it’s done x

  12. I felt the same way pretty much ad soon as I turned 18. I was an adult and I felt like I had to know what I wanted to do and accomplish something. Every year that went by and I was still agoraphobic and still in the same job etc made me really deflated. I also have that fear or not seeing me in the face in the mirror anymore. You’re not alone. I just try and see it as another year of experience. You’re another year wiser 🙂 in a couple of days you’ll probably forget all about your birthday until next year .

  13. Happy birthday! I’m closing in on 60. 25 seems like a distant memory. If I’ve learned anything since my youth, it is the realization that excelling at the process of living is far more important than attaining any particular goals we set for ourselves at various stages in life – because those goals are certain to change with time.

  14. All the more reason to do what makes you happy! Life is so short. I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I am at a crossroads and I do not know what to do next. My daughter is growing up so fast, and I will be an empty nester before any of my much older friends that still have small children.

  15. Your feelings, at 25, are certainly normal. I remember much the same and that was 21 years ago. My birthday, mid-50s, is coming up and I have garnered a different thought. I am slowing down, seeing what I can see, enjoying the days, and worrying so much less. I don’t think the problems have left, just changed, yes, somehow I have learned to turn them over to God and truly let them go. It will be okay, Megan…eat those 2 cupcakes, and don’t give a crap.
    Scott

  16. Happy Birthday, Megan! I’m sorry you’re feeling anxiety about your age. Turning 25 didn’t hit me hard, but other ages did, so I can relate to your angst. I’m not sure what you mean by questioning where your life is going, but – as a life-long writer and editor – I can honestly say you are a wonderful writer. I love reading your posts and believe in your talent. You are already accomplished writing this blog, so please keep that in mind when the Quarter Century mark makes you question yourself. As for not recognizing yourself in the mirror as time goes on, that’s what taking care of our skin is all about – especially sunscreen, rain or shine. I’m sure you’ll be lovely at any age. Enjoy your cupcakes!

    1. I suppose it’s all about perspective and I just need some time to find mine 🙂 I’m glad you can relate and that I’m not the only one who has felt this way 🙂

  17. Wow happy birthday beautiful Megan! 🙂
    Yea 25 is still so young (lol), and it might be quarter of life if you keep just counting years but you would enjoy much much MUCH more than 3/4 rest of your life 🙂 Enjoy your cupcakes ❤

  18. Happy birthday, Megan! Here’s what I think: With each birthday I look back and say Wow, I don’t feel that much older! Because I don’t! I know–there’s that infernal mirror on your wall. Yes, life does pass by very quickly. Which is one reason I try to stay focused on the present. I’m not unsympathetic with you. It (me) just looks better from here than I ever thought it would. And I feel better about myself, too. Hoping you had a Great Day!
    Elouise

  19. You will always recognize yourself in the mirror because change is gradual. Also, everyone I’ve talked to isn’t a fan of their birthday this year. Something about 2015, I guess. Personally I’ve hated my birthday since childhood, but that’s a long story.

  20. Happy birthday girl! I’m 28 but when I turned your age I felt that way and still do lol. But I’ve never felt better in my own skin than ever. It does it better! Enjoy the day💕

  21. I’m 46, I can hardly believe it, I still feel 25. I have to say, my 30’s were great, fun, in charge of my life. My 40’s so far have surpassed the fondness of my 30’s! I freak out sometimes because I’m getting older and health issues could become an issue. But really, issues can pop into our lives at any time. I choose to stay young in my mind. I remind myself that there are a ton of people way older than me. 25 is young, but I totally know where you’re coming from. Have a cupcake for me. Life is good 🙂

    1. I need to be more conscious of my health and lifestyle now because it is a concern of mine too. I’m really not as healthy as I’d like to be. I’m glad you know a bit of what I felt and that I’m not alone in this thinking 🙂

  22. How many cupcakes did you end up eating? 🙂 Not to rub it in but you’re a quarter of a century age now hehe. I’ll be the same boat in a few months time.. And tell me about, where has time gone?! Hope you enjoyed your birthday and your cupcakes! xx

    1. Haha, it’s like I didn’t read the title of the post.. You already had it there, the ‘quarter life’! 😀

    2. I had enough willpower to stop at 2 cupcakes 😀 I hope you don’t go through the same emotional weirdness that I did when you turn 25. No idea where or why it happened, it just did. It was the weirdest thing.

  23. Hey now, I’m staring down the barrel of 40 in a couple of years. 😉

    I still look a lot like I did in my 20’s, except for some body fat (that’s totally my own doing) and extra body hair. I’m sure you’ll still look much the same when you get older. Priorities change in your 30’s. We’re all ever-evolving. At least those of us that grow as people do. You’re awesome now, so I imagine in the decades to come you’ll only become awesomer. Yes, I just used “awesomer.” I refuse to use “for reals.”

  24. A late happy birthday.

    Just over a month ago I turned 29 and honestly up until that point I’d never really been concerned by age, but it passed after a couple of days. It’s more weird than anything being on the precipice of a new decade.

    It isn’t for other people to say things like ‘oh, you’re way too young to worry or freak out’, I’d say just take notice of the feelings and use them as an opportunity to take stock of where you are and where you want to go.

    Anyway I read your most recent post and I’m glad that you are feeling well.

    1. I’m glad to say that my feelings on this have changed for the better in the last couple of days. I’ve just been trying to keep my mind on how pretty the weather has been. Seems to be working. Thanks for the bday wishes!

  25. Happy Birthday! I think everyone stops and reflects at the quarter-of-century mark. Don’t fret! Forward is really the only way to go.

  26. I love your blog, I can relate to a lot of things you’ve written about. Now I’m in my 30s, I’ve never been happier or healthier. I got married a month ago, moved in with Mr Right, and have a better job etc. It’s all good 🙂

      1. Thanks! Have to say, albeit just 1 yr in, I’m enjoying my 30s more than my 20s so far for sure! Take care 🙂

  27. Those cupcakes looks so cute 🙂 Don’t worry, I’m only 16, but I also sometimes worry about that things. Especially about my loved ones. For example, my mum, she’s 44 now, she’s already passed the half of her life :/

  28. I’ll not say how old I am now. 🙂 BUT, I will say that I felt much older at 25 than I do now. In all honesty, I think the 20’s are about the roughest decade a person travels through. Megan, enjoy this time! Don’t worry about your age…just enjoy EACH day. ❤ ~~Lisa

  29. I felt similar when I hit 25 and realized that I was approaching 30. Now I am 36 and I can honestly say that my 30s have been a hell of a lot better than my 20s. Better financially, better socially and I know a hell of a lot more than I did at that age. Yeah, I’m not excited that 40 is less than 4 years away now but I’m not freaked out about it as an age thing but more as a goal-setting thing, as there is a lot I want to do before then and time just keeps passing by. And time does fly by more and more as you get older but I think you’ll be fine with it. With me, something clicked at a point and I started living everyday to the fullest that I can. It is about quality not quantity and there are a lot more pros that come with age than cons. It was hard for me to see at 25 but it is much more clearer at 36. And high school really doesn’t seem that long ago to me either.

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