I have come to the realization that certain people and situations stress me out. Stress sucks, plain and simple. Part of having an anxiety disorder means I worry a lot and stress out all the time. I am terrible at handling my stress. If I’m not in a stressful situation, then I’m totally fine. At home, I am relaxed and with my boys and am exactly who I want to be. The problems start when I got outside of my home. Let me specify. I actually have found that the gym that I’m going to now, which is so clean and pretty, is not stressful to me. I actually find it stress relieving to go there. I never thought I’d say those words. I know I’ve mentioned in the past how stressful I found going to the gym was, but that was my university gym, which was dusty, smelly, and had people who looked way better than me. At the gym I go to now, I’m like the best looking person around, so I have much more confidence 🙂
My problems with stress occur when I’m at work, mostly, or in crowded, public places, such as the mall, the movie theater, bars, any public event really. I absolutely hate festivals because I always feel like I’m going to see someone “getting sick” or some of the food is going to make me “sick.”
While it’s not always possible to remove myself from these situations, because I do need to go to work, it is possible to manage stress while in them. The thing that’s been really working for me lately is to listen to podcasts on my iPhone while at work. I am a huge fan of podcasts now! Here are some that I’ve been listening to pretty regularly or have listened to in the past and loved:
These are just some of my favorites. Have you heard of any of these/listened to any of these?
I even splurged on some pretty pink ear buds for better listening 🙂
The last few days, I’ve had to multitask at work more than usual, so I haven’t been able to tune anyone out with my podcasts. I don’t listen to music, but I may have to soon. I listen to classical, mostly, because I find it relaxing and there isn’t any loud base to kill my hearing.
This past week has pretty much been like that. I’ve been asked to do additional tasks at work and that kind of change is stressful for me, someone who does not handle change well. I know it’s only temporary, but stressful nonetheless.
I find that negative or difficult people really bring me down as well and cause me to gossip more than I normally would. Eventually, this kind of social situation really brings me down mentally, emotionally, and even physically to the point that I’m exhausted when I get home.
Here are some good articles I’ve read to deal with difficult people:
- Tiny Buddha: 10 Ways to Deal with Negative or Difficult People
- Tiny Buddha: 4 Easy Steps to Deal with Difficult People
- Chinh Pham: How to Detox Your Life of Negative People and Not Feel Bad About It
I need to work on additional ways to calm the heck down and not worry so much, but that’s easier said than done and those of you with anxiety disorders can probably relate. Heck, those of you who have stressful jobs or stressful schoolwork know what I’m talking about too.
What sort of things do you do to manage stressful situations or people? Please share with me and others your thoughts on this!
Thanks for reading friends 🙂